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DO COMPLIMENTS MAKE YOU CRINGE?If receiving recognition makes you uncomfortable, you aren’t alone. Around 70% of people in a survey associated feelings of embarrassment and discomfort with praise. Why do we feel this way?
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OFFERING PRAISE BENEFITS EVERYONEOffering a compliment has been shown to benefit both the giver and receiver, but we often hold back because we’re worried about how we’ll come off,. Will I make the other person feel awkward? Will the compliment seem fake or pandering?
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PEOPLE WANT TO FEEL APPRECIATEDBosses have forgotten how to say "good job" — and it's driving employees to quit.
79% of employees would rather stay in a job where they feel valued, even if it meant making less money. for the work they do. |
TSP: Truthful, Specific, Positive Feedback®
How are you at giving it? How are you at receiving it?
Do any of these responses to praise or acknowlegement feel familiar to you?
A) You make a joke: “Ha ha, sometimes I get the job done.”
B) You play compliment ping-pong: “No, no, this was all you! It wouldn’t have been possible without your guidance!”
C) You quickly change the subject: *awkward smile* “So … um, did you see the game last night?”
D) You write it off: “It was nothing, just doing my job.”
E) You pass the credit: “It was really a team effort.”
F) You convince them you’re not that great: “I really don’t think I did a good job, here’s why…”
*Harvard Business Review: Do compliments make you cringe? By Chriistopher Littlefiield.
B) You play compliment ping-pong: “No, no, this was all you! It wouldn’t have been possible without your guidance!”
C) You quickly change the subject: *awkward smile* “So … um, did you see the game last night?”
D) You write it off: “It was nothing, just doing my job.”
E) You pass the credit: “It was really a team effort.”
F) You convince them you’re not that great: “I really don’t think I did a good job, here’s why…”
*Harvard Business Review: Do compliments make you cringe? By Chriistopher Littlefiield.
A FEW TIPS TO GET BETTER AT RECEIVING POSITIVE FEEDBACK
- Count to three before you respond. ...
- Accept the recognition or compliment with a "Thank You.” That's all you need to do! It may be difficult at first, but you can do it!
- Connect with the feeling of success. ...
- Give yourself more praise, more often. ...
- Practice gratitude on a daily basis. ...
- KEEP PRACTICING
*Harvard Business Review: Why Kindness at Work Pays Off, By Andrew Swinand
